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Starting school is a significant milestone for both children and their parents, often accompanied by a mix of excitement and emotions. When the time comes, knowing how to best support your child’s transition to this new chapter can ease some of the stress and ensure they start off on the right foot.
According to Carol Evelegh, head of The Kindergardens nursery group, fostering happiness and confidence in children is essential for their success at school. Encouraging them to explore and be curious is more beneficial than simply pushing them to excel academically or athletically. Carol advises parents to promote a “have-a-go” attitude rather than focusing solely on measurable achievements.
Carol also emphasizes that each child’s individuality should be respected. While you may wish for your child to excel in certain activities, it’s important to allow them the freedom to pursue what truly interests them. Avoid comparing them to their peers, as children develop unique skills at their own pace. For instance, while some may excel in literacy or numeracy early on, it’s more vital that they develop basic independence skills, such as dressing themselves, managing their school bag, and using the restroom alone. Most nurseries will support children in developing these skills before school.
Friendship-building is another crucial aspect of starting school. While it can be helpful if children know some peers beforehand, parents should also encourage them to expand their social circles and adapt to new environments. Simple activities like exploring the local surroundings together or engaging with signs and numbers can build curiosity. When reading together, create a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere, allowing children to think independently rather than quickly supplying answers.
Carol reassures parents not to worry excessively about their child’s age relative to their classmates. A mixed-age classroom can foster a supportive learning environment, where younger children learn resilience and older children find comfort in learning at their own pace. The youngest students often adapt quickly and develop a strong drive to keep up with others.
Present school as an exciting adventure. Make several visits beforehand to make the environment familiar. And as hard as it may be, send them off with a big smile on their first day—positivity will help them feel secure. Once they settle into a routine, avoid probing them for details about their day. Many children are simply exhausted after school and may need time and gentle encouragement to share.
As school life progresses, it’s essential for parents to feel comfortable approaching teachers if any concerns arise. Carol recommends scheduling meetings if needed and maintaining a respectful relationship with the teaching staff. Building a bridge between home and school is valuable; celebrate achievements at home and share personal milestones with teachers, ensuring a seamless connection between these two environments.
Above all, remember to stay calm and optimistic. Starting school is a universal experience, one that can be as rewarding for parents as it is for children.
