How to Talk to Your Child About Racism

With ongoing discussions around ‘Black Lives Matter’ and the reactions to the movement, especially following events like the tragic death of George Floyd, the question of how to address this with a child may have arisen. How can you explain the emotions and events being portrayed in the media?

Even if racism doesn’t seem like a personal issue, discussing it with your child can be essential. If your child has questions after seeing or hearing something, don’t avoid these conversations. Approach them openly, even if it feels challenging. It’s natural to worry about saying the wrong thing, but a simple “I don’t know; let’s learn together” can go a long way.

Avoid dismissing the topic, as children will pick up on discomfort, potentially leaving them with misunderstandings or the notion that it’s a taboo subject. History teaches us that silence can allow injustices to persist, making it crucial to confront these topics head-on.

Even if your child hasn’t brought it up, that doesn’t mean they’re unaware. Children pick up on societal messages, including ideas about race, through everyday interactions, media, and even play. They might make observations that reflect stereotypes or social roles—without understanding the emotions or biases behind them. Engaging with them about these notions helps to clarify and challenge their understanding.

Reflecting on your own attitudes towards race can help shape the conversation. Consider how racial differences are discussed in your home. Does the media or literature your child engages with reflect diverse perspectives positively? Children are not inherently “colorblind,” and they benefit from positive messages about diversity and inclusion, especially when guided by trusted adults.

Racism is learned, not innate. The belief in racial superiority stems from harmful conditioning, but it can be countered through education and open communication. The power to challenge and overcome racism lies in actively promoting understanding.

Racism involves more than high-profile incidents; it includes stereotypes that affect people’s perceptions, opportunities, and safety. Addressing and dismantling these biases can prevent marginalized individuals from feeling excluded or disillusioned. Many who protest do so because they feel the system fails to protect them fairly.

Now, the responsibility is yours to guide and educate.